Marriage is a big step for any relationship – a step so huge, it’s legally binding. And the reality is that not everyone who jumps into marriage is ready for that (maybe you’ve heard the divorce rate in America is around 50%?). The nice thing is that you can usually tell well ahead of time whether a marriage is built on a solid foundation or not – even if people won’t really admit it.
And sometimes it’s REAL obvious a marriage wasn’t built to last – like, when there are major red flags AT THE WEDDING ITSELF. And these stories from an r/AskReddit thread are…some of the reddest flags I’ve ever heard of.
Desperation usually leads to smart decisions! (from Spartan1819)
The pastor at the wedding, in front of a couple hundred people, said, “can you believe that just two months ago, (bride’s name) was in my house, crying because she was so lonely and wanted to be married so badly? And now look at her two months later, getting married to a guy she met the next day!” Even her elderly grandmother laughed out loud.
He’ll definitely change his entire personality for me, permanently, and it won’t cause any issues! (from SpaceNerd07)
Attended a wedding where the bride talked, not about her love for him or how great he is, but more about how he changed so much of his personality for her & how that made everything perfect.
Making sarcastic putdowns during the ring ceremony = everything’s lookin’ good. (from TheDood715)
The groom had the ring in his pocket but forgot which one and the bride visually annoyed said “That’s the kind of guy I’m marrying”.
They divorced within the year.
Soon-to-be prisoners make the best husbands! (from Medicivich)
I worked as a county prosecutor. I did a sentencing where the guy was sent to prison for about two years. As I was walking out of the courtroom his girlfriend asked the judge to marry her to her boyfriend, who was going to prison. Judge said she needed a marriage license and there was a two day waiting period (he was basically telling her not to marry the guy). She pulls out the marriage license. The judge then says you need two witnesses. -she was alone. The dude’s attorney grabbed me by the arm and enthusiastically volunteered us to be the witnesses.
A side note: the guy was in an orange jumpsuit and was shackled (literally shackled) during the ceremony.
Yep, nothing sounds wrong here. (from cbeeeee)
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding and right after the ceremony the bride told me this wasn’t actually a wedding because the groom couldn’t get married as he was still married to someone else. She was 3 months pregnant and was throwing a fake wedding to please her religious family and collect money/gifts. So that was cool. They “divorced” within a year.
Confronting the fact you actually hate each other should hopefully happen BEFORE the reception.
At the end of the ceremony she changed into an extremely fancy going-away outfit – tight and purple and laced up down the sides. He changed into an old t-shirt and shorts that reeked of stale student-bachelor sweat and said “Oh, I didn’t know we were dressing up.” She gave him a look of the purest hatred and disgust. They separated six months later.
…yikes. (from quixt)
The bride looked drugged up, and told me in confidence that she had broken her years-long sobriety with a bunch of Vicodin “to relax for the wedding.” Sadly, she never went back to not using drugs.
Thirsty texts to a bridesmaid – not a great look for the groom. (from Kraz31)
Groom was sending texts to a very uninterested bridesmaid all night. Groom was also more interested in getting wasted with his buddies than being with the bride. There were also red flags BEFORE the wedding. No surprise they were divorced in less than a year.
“1950’s sitcom dad” is not a great attitude to go into a marriage with (from ltblck)
The groom wouldn’t stop talking about the marriage like it was a prison sentence. He incessantly went on about how it was the end of his freedom and how he was going to be tied down to “the ball and chain” now. They were divorced in just under a year.
A tale of two marriages – turns out, you never know for sure! (from SeaOkra)
The groom forgot the bride’s name during his toast to her and called her a similar but very different name. (Like, if her name was Brenda, he called her Brittney.) It lasted two years.
Oddly the wedding where the bride started labor during the reception is going strong ten years later. It was absolutely a shotgun wedding, her father pretty much told him either man up and marry her, or get out of her life so she could find the kid a real father. The groom was at the time a stoner who most of our family disliked (I always kinda liked him, but I wouldn’t have wanted to be having a baby with him, I was certain she would be a married single mom.) and somehow between her third trimester and the birth he straightened up.
He worked for a few years, got injured and became a stay at home dad while she worked. (This is not a dig at him in the least, he’s a great dad, and seems to be a great husband. Their home is always clean enough to be healthy, cluttered enough to be comfortable, and he cooks dinner six nights a week so his wife can come home and relax after work.) Plus while he was working, she was going to school for her special education certification and he never once tried to discourage her or imply that it was a stupid job to want the way her mother did.
But yeah, when your water breaks during the father daughter dance, things will be said.